Thursday, March 7, 2013

Losing ground is not failure!





Losing ground is not failure!
I'm not supposed to lose ground though, I am the trainer, the competitor, the motivator, the coach, the been there, done that girl with the success story and the tips and tricks. Right?
Well, No. life happens, life is real. I am real, not perfect. To some, this blog is going to look like a silly, SMALL thing, but it's not. For me it is a big deal. 

Before and After and Before (again) 
In 2011 I rocked out clean eating and marathon training, but I was lifting weights heavy and steady too. All this resulted in me getting pretty ripped up and lean. 

The infamous pic, May to July 2011! 
Fit but fluffy in the first and LEAN AND MEAN in the second. 

Well, After my competitions last spring, after my wedding and honeymoon in June and July and after becoming Step-mom extraordinaire for the first 2-3-4 months after that. Guess what? I lost some ground. 



I was in that place where: 



 I didn't have a "goal" in front of me
I was getting a little tired of eating clean
I was giving into all the BLT's (bite, licks, tastes) and finishing my son's food.
I was a little LAX with my diet, treat meals a few times a week



I was up in weight, but only 6-8 pounds and lifting heavy to attempt to gain muscle, but really I see now I was using that as a cushion to eat full fat and full flavor and not as clean as I wanted. But at the same time, I DID want it, I felt I needed a break, mentally from training the way I had been, 2 marathons, 2 figure shows etc... I was tired of being stringent with myself. I had LOST the vision of what I was doing as a lifestyle.  




 In the END, I was aiming to lean out and keep some of the muscle I had built with my weight gain. I never wanted an "off season" where I gain some 20-30 pounds to build muscle and then lean back down, I lost my weight already and don't aim to have to lose more! But here I am, looking a little more like my "before" picture than my after picture and feeling horrible about it.
 
My good friend Cheryl reminded me that I am human, normal, REAL and that people like that and that aside from that, it's normal to be normal! Had I thrown my healthy lifestyle out the window? NO WAY! I worked out still, enjoyed plenty of healthy foods and knew that my small setback, this losing ground was NOT A FAILURE, I succeeded in finding out what worked for me.


‎"If I find 10,000 ways something won't work, I haven't failed. I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward. Just because something doesn't do what you planned it to do doesn't mean it's useless." Thomas Edison
 
 
New Goals: Trainer, show, lifestyle
 
 
The truth is I LOVE lifting, I even love running, I LOVE when you get past your cravings and ENJOY clean healthy eating, where fruit tastes SO sweet and you eat to LIVE, not live to eat! That's a place where I was for a LONG time and I am hungry to get back to it!

What didn't work for me was:
`Not knowing WHY I was eating what I was.
`Not having a plan back to normalcy after my show.

`Letting my clean eating get stagnant.
`Treating myself too often.
`Letting my cardio slide.
`NOT having a clear goal in sight. (photo shoot, race, show etc)

FIXES:
`I am currently taking a Nutrition course through Precision Nutrition. I am learning WHY what and when we eat are vital to lasting health.

`I have a new coach, Brandan Fokken, who is the bomb dot com. He lives a fit lifestyle, has succeeded in his own journey and has many successful clients!!

`Treat meals are IN CHECK. Once a week with no guilt. And even if they are treats, they can be FUN and clean by using Pinterest to get NEW ideas for healthy meals!

`Goal, cardio, plan of action! All encompassed in a goal of a June figure show, the MN State Championships... and after that? My coach has a plan of action to ease me into a regular clean lifestyle that can be maintained and enjoyed!! I am thrilled to be doing another figure show and even thinking of BIG, big goals for this coming year. I am starting better than expected. I am not lean and mean, but I am strong, determined and have been lifting heavier than ever! Here is my before, before February 22nd: 



And my after 8 days of being on Plan with my new coach!
Photo Saturday March 2nd:
 

 
Not where I was, but not yet where I am going to be! I have learned and grown from each "failure" and turned them all into stepping stones! I have learned what doesn't work and it's hard to admit sometimes when you are supposed to be this super woman--"Hey, I lost some ground, but I am REAL and it's NOT failure!"

My future is bright, exciting and packaged in six small tupperwares of food. I know I have been MIA on the blog it'self for a while, it's strange to be back, I feel I have missed so many updates. What is most important is my acceptance of my own success in not succeeding and being fine with it!!




4 comments:

DreamingofArnold said...

Mary,
Great post! Keep in mind you are always your own harshest critic. Your before pics in both cases are already 98% better than the general population. Getting back on your horse will come easy for you. Again, that is a very true down to earth post that we all feel and go through. Now go eat some more chicken! Ha
Crystal

Shannon said...

Mary, you have no idea how HELPFUL and MOTIVATING it is to us "regular" people out here in the world to read something like this--that you struggle, backslide, etc., too, just like everyone else. It makes those of us who are struggling with fitness or healthy eating feel comforted and like we are not alone. This also helps us feel better about ourselves--to realize we are all human, we all make mistakes, none of us is bad or weak or stupid for messing up sometimes. So, while you may sometimes feel bad about slipping a little and maybe not want to post because of what your readers will think, in reality it could be that these are the times you help others the most. Thank you, Mary! xoxo

Chris said...

This is great motivation. I'm working hard on a new eating strategy and seeing your success is great encouragement. Even your before pics look good to me!

Anonymous said...

Mary, i believe in you and i know you can do even better! Thank you for ur inspirational blog. you are my favourite motivator!
your ru reader

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